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i really dont talk to anyone i went to school with on a regular basis. the only people i hang out with now are people i work with. i try to contact some of my old friends but our interests have changed. i drink maybe twice a year now and it seems that most of my old friends only want to party. i also work all the time and am married so that gets in the way too.
Friendship's a 2-way street. If you had a friend where all you did was bitch about stuff, and all he/she did was bitch about stuff when you talked...that would get old eventually. You've got to share the good stuff too. I've cut people out of my life entirely that were friends w/me for years that just want to continually have drama/complaints as the central point of my friendship with them. It wears on a person to get nothing but negativity back in a friendship.Quote:
I think of people you can call and talk to when stuff bothers you. Not just at their convenience.
AND--if I haven't cut out certain people altogether, I know not to pick up the phone when certain friends call b/c I already know it's a bitch session about to ensue, while I'm busy trying to have a good time w/family and other friends...and I don't want that ruined b/c I'm trying to sacrifice myself and my good times for the sake of being the friend who's "always there".
Not saying that's your case or even close to it--just sharing my experiences as far as friendship goes.
It's easy to have friends when you're seeing them every day at school. When you get older and you all have various obligations, it is hard to maintain a friendship. Kids, work, etc. all take up a lot of time.
I stay in contact with my core group from high school. We don't see each other nearly as often, but we try to get together two or three times a year. Sometimes it's hard to even do that as we work different schedules and do different things. I have a hard time doing anything other than working and fishing.
x2 on what NSSB said. Theres 4 of us from HS that get together a few times a year when we can and take semi annual trip to PF together for a weekend renting out a cabin.
I never see the folks that were my friends from HS...many moved away and quite a few have died. The only friends I ever see are the ones I've made within the past 10 years.