Hi everyone,
This post isn't a sexfight story, but it IS sexfight related. It's more of a "About Me" post and why I'm into sexfights, thus it's kind of personal. So hopefully this read won't be a bore to you.
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I first stumbled upon sexfights way back in latter years of high school... you know, with puberty kicking in and all. I was drawn to the idea of two women making out, but also a little less to the idea of catfights.
But then I started thinking: what if you combine the two? And somehow I stumbled upon the idea of female sexfights, thanks to the Internet. California Wildcats & Chickfight.com were probably the first sexfight videos I watched; and I want to say that the first sexfight stories I read that made an impression on me were Emery's "Apartment Wars" and this one about cheerleaders.
And... F/F sexfights have been my favorite (and for the most part, only) sexual fantasy/fetish ever since then. Even up till now.
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Fast forward to recent years:
I got out of a long, tumultuous relationship. It took me a while to realize that I needed professional help because I was still emotionally scarred from it. But after finding a great counselor and having many counseling sessions with her, my mental health is better (albeit still not 100%).
One of the things I revealed to my counselor is that, during my relationship, my ex was a Christian. And as a Christian, she doesn't approve of anything that remotely resembles homosexual acts, such as two girls dancing with each other on the dance floor, much less porn. I guess this goes back to the whole notion that homosexuality is a sin. ANYWAYS.... my ex was very dominant and didn't treat me well in general, to say the least. And I realized that I wished I could share with her about my F/F sexfight fantasy because some of the things for a healthy relationship are openness and acceptance without worrying about being judged. But knowing her and her values (ie. homosexuality being a sin), I couldn't open up to her about it as much as I wanted to. If I did tell her that particular subject of F/F sexfights, she'd go through the roof. (It should be noted that my very first ex years ago was also this way -- conservative and didn't treat me well either.)
I mentioned all of this to my counselor and also that I have a very specific sexual fetish/fantasy; she was openly curious and asked me about it.
I was like, "Have you ever heard of a sexfight?"
And not surprisingly, she said no. (It seems like a very limited "audience" for sexfights as a sex genre.)
I was nervous in explaining it to her because I was worried that she'd disapprove or judge me on my sexual fetish (even though counselors aren't supposed to be judgmental to begin with). I was like, "Well.... you know how some guys like it when lesbians make out, and other guys like it when women catfight? It's kinda like combining the best of both those worlds. Except instead of physically fighting, two women fight by having sex with each other. They F each other trying to make the other cum first."
My counselor's response was a very exciting, "THAT'S F---ING BRILLIANT!!"
Now, I don't know much of my counselor's personal life as I am the client talking about their personal life, and not her. But she's obviously not against homosexual acts. Her reaction made me feel very relieved.
I told her more about my idea of "the perfect F/F sexfight" (and a lot of these I attribute to JB57's fantastic stories):
- the two females are equal in terms of physical build, height, weight, bust size, etc. Neither can dominate the other;
- whatever sexual acts they perform on each other, it's mutual and they do it together: masturbation, 69, & tribadism especially;
- I always imagine the two females being locked together, wrapped in each others arms, and moaning/screaming into each others faces openly during the sexfight;
- in missionary style, the two females both end up having multiple orgasms together simultaneously.
After hearing all this, my counselor immediately picked up a pattern: "You really value equality between two people in a relationship. You don't like it when one person is dominant over the other, like how your ex dominated you. And all of the sexual acts the two females mutually do to each other in sexfight, they do TOGETHER... to you, that togetherness represents a partnership. And the females openly moaning in each others faces represents two partners being open to each other in a relationship. And finally, the two females cumming together can represent two partners experiencing pleasure together."
... ok, she didn't come up with all of that right away. It took a few more sessions of discussing and me reflecting what my F/F sexfight fetish represented. But yes, I never thought of the possibility of one's sexual fetish/fantasy representing something deeper about ourselves. Maybe even trauma related, like in my case. It just never occurred to me.
Another thing I mentioned to my counselor: "Yeah, in my F/F sexfight fantasy, there isn't much physical fighting unlike catfights. Sure, the women rolling around on the ground trying to get on top of each other, with neither being able to dominate the other, is hot. And there's some mutual hairpulling. But overall, they inflict sexual pleasure on each other, not real bodily harm. I don't like it when people get real hurt."
My counselor: "You're an EMT! Of course, you don't want anyone to get hurt."
So that was another nice revelation as well.
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Since then, I don't feel ashamed about having a F/F sexfight fetish. Embarrassed? Yeah, somewhat. But not ashamed. Just because there are people out there like my exes who'd disapprove. The world's a big place and everyone has their own kinkiness, if you know what I mean.
So one of these days, I hope to find a great gf. I told my counselor that I hope can be open and authentic with her about ANYTHING, including about my F/F sexfight fetish. And hopefully, she won't judge me. Ofc, it'd be awesome if she's the type of gal who'd like to sexfight another female. But really, first and foremost, I want to be able to be open and authentic with her.
Anyways, I just wanted to share this deeply personal story with you all -- the sexfight/titfight commuity. =) I've been following this board for YEARS, and it seems like it's one of the nicest places on the Internet.
Last edited by redbee05; April 23rd, 2023 at 06:56 PM.
Yeah, trust me. I would never discuss this with others outside of our little community either. It is a very specific kink that you’re either into or not. Good story and your counselor sounds like an interesting person. Your ex sounds terrible and treated you like her property. Glad you’re free of her now.
Interesting, yeah I'm very similar - firm on equality, and disliking any actual brutality or violence.
That's brave of you to discuss it with your therapist, though - I would never! And yeah her reaction is interesting, I've never heard of someone hearing out sexfighting and responding so enthusiastically. Either your therapist is actually into sexfighting and was pretending to be naive, or you've just opened her eyes to a new kink ������
That could fill an entire story in of itself.Originally Posted by Elza
Thank you. I'm very glad to be free of her too!
I have told several female friends of mine about the concept of F/F sexfights. They were all intrigued by it (not that I was trying to get them into it, I just wanted to share it with them). Ofc, I'd only tell them if I feel comfortable opening up to them about such and if they're not the judgmental types.
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Glad that there's someone else out there with similar tastes as mine!
Haha, yeah my therapist is awesome. I feel comfortable with her, hence that's why I was able to open up to her about F/F sexfight as my fetish/fantasy. That'd be cool if she got into the kink, but I doubt it. I think the novelty of the idea sounded exciting to her, initially.
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That would indeed be a sweet story.
Very interestingThank you. I'm very glad to be free of her too!
I have told several female friends of mine about the concept of F/F sexfights. They were all intrigued by it (not that I was trying to get them into it, I just wanted to share it with them). Ofc, I'd only tell them if I feel comfortable opening up to them about such and if they're not the judgmental types.
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Glad that there's someone else out there with similar tastes as mine!
Haha, yeah my therapist is awesome. I feel comfortable with her, hence that's why I was able to open up to her about F/F sexfight as my fetish/fantasy. That'd be cool if she got into the kink, but I doubt it. I think the novelty of the idea sounded exciting to her, initially.
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That would indeed be a sweet story.
Thanks to share it with us ! Reading it, I finally doubt if a counselor did not know about s3xfight. I am not sure though, she may told you the truth.
However it is also quite propable, that she knew what you were talking about but she let you to talk about it, in order to notice how you will describe it. That might be important for her. Besides, there are more than one ways for two women to s3xfight.
One way or the other, she did right, she helped you.
Now, if she didn't know it, and then being curious, she tried to have a practice... I do not know if this can happen but I bet that this can be a hot story, like the ones we share here !! LOL
Thanks for sharing this. What a great experience.
I hope you find someone you can share your fantasies with - I did and I am very lucky.
I love how great she reacted. And I must say I see myself in her analysis of your fetish :-)
Thank you for your thoughts! Yes, everything you said is possible. As for her finding a new kink to get into.... hopefully that happened but it's probably inappropriate to ask haha. But either way, you're right that'd be an awesome story haha.
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Thank you! And hey, thanks for sharing your thoughts too. I'm glad to hear that others share the same analysis.
And you're super lucky to find someone who shares your fantasies with (F/F sexfight maybe? haha). I hope one day, I run into the same luck as you.
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