Marriage problems

[DARKsyde]

Hell I guess I don't know what I want anymore, I am with what seem's to me these past few month's my children's mother, my wife. Who just doesn't feel the love that we once had. So I started seeing a co-worker on the side, but nothing serious yet. They both know each other, But the lady I am seeing on the side want's to take our relationship to the next level. I don't want to hurt anybody's feeling's, But I need that love agiam. What do I do? [img]frown.gif[/img]

[~*Twi*~]

Divorce your wife first then carry on a relationship with the other woman

[SummerStorm]

talk to your wife...see if she's willing to do a "trial" run of an open relationship for a month or so to give you the chance to see if what you want is her forever or this other woman

[DARKsyde]

I am not officially and legally married, I fell that it is my kid's. That are keeping me attached, with my live in girlfriend/wife. I am also kind of afraid of leaving her, for the kid's sake. I like this other lady alot, but I also harbor feeling's for this woman that I have spent 5 years with. I know that being Honest is the best way, But I feel that she will think that I don't care about her enough to keep the relationship going. Or she will try to use the kid's as a saftey net, so to speak. I thought about going to couples counceling, but I feel it will only cause the situation to get worse.

[SummerStorm]

well you'll never know until you try and i think that the fact that you are willing to "work" on the relationship would be a good thing and that she would probably feel the same way...and its better that she hears it from you than to see or hear it elsewhere

[SummerStorm]

*hugs wild back* i thought it was too*S

[wildnthewind]

Good advice there... Tell her exactly how you feel, then you'll know or have an idea which way to go.. (good luck)
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Ok.........gotta [img]graemlins/sleepy.gif[/img]
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**hugs summer**

[BlackMagicRose]

Definately better if she hears it from you than from someone else. You can always try counseling. If it isn't beneficial you can stop. Or you can do a trial separation and spend some time alone to see where your feelings lay.

[DARKsyde]

Well I have been keeping my relationship with my co-worker as stricktley buisness, and nothing else. Well except for once going out to the bar and haveing a few drinks and just B.S.ing. And I kinda feel like I wonder what would happen if I were to take it further then just buisness. But she now has a steady boyfriend, But she tells me that she also wonders. But I stopped her and told her that we will just leave it as friends, and co-workers.

[SummerStorm]

thats probably for the best*S*