going crazy

I need your help. A friend of mine killed himself wed. On sunday, we were talking and he said so many things that hinted at what he was going to do. So much so, that another friend and i were actually saying how worried we were that he might do something. We both spoke to him and asked him if he was ok, and said to him "You wouldn't do anything stupid would you?" etc. The next day, he did it. I can't believe it. I feel like I'm losing it, going crazy. what do i do? i'm really frustrated, angry at him etc. i don't know. sorry to put this here, if it's not suitable, delete it...that's cool.

<font color="#9966FF" size="1">[ October 19, 2003 02:24 AM: Message edited by: Pnut ]</font>

Oh Pnut [img]frown.gif[/img] I'm so so sorry.

Death can be such a difficult thing to understand, especially when someone takes his own life. There are so many emotions involved when something like that happens and every one of them is completely understandable and very real. The best I can say right now is that you need to feel everything you are experiencing, and you need to know that it is okay to feel everything you are feeling. There is no right or wrong emotion in situations like this, and I imagine that you will experience many different ones.

Allow yourself to grieve in every way you need to, including being angry with him, and please talk to people. Talk to us, talk to people that are physically around you. Don't shut yourself off.

((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))

I'm so sorry [img]frown.gif[/img]

thank you laurie. really appreciate it. have been doing lots of talking which is weird for me...never really been the sort of person who talks about feelings etc.

Pnut I am so sorry! Sends you lots of Hugs!!!

I agree with everything Laurie has said, feel everything and talk as much as possible.

I'm so sorry this has happened Pnut [img]frown.gif[/img] I don't think I can offer any words that can be of help in this situation. Echoes what Laurie has already said.

Janie xx

Aww Pnut i am sorry [img]frown.gif[/img] Grief heals with time but dont be sad about it cos i dont think thats what your friend would want you to be!

*hugs*


I am here by pm or email (or msn messenger) ([email protected]) if ya need someone to talk to

*big hugs*

Oh Pnut, how awful, my thoughts are with you. I am sending huge hugs to you. You tried to help so did your best. Your friend had already decided what he wanted to do. Ido hope you find peace of heart.

Joyce

xx

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Originally posted by Pnut:
thank you laurie. really appreciate it. have been doing lots of talking which is weird for me...never really been the sort of person who talks about feelings etc.

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<font size="3" face="Tempus sans ITC, Papyrus,Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">There are times when talking is the most important thing to do, and this is one of those times. You are doing a good thing for yourself by doing that, even if you are not the kind of person who talks about feelings. You need this.

*comfs* poor deary, i had a friend who almost committed suicide once and i know how much it can feck you up, especially since in your case it really did happen :// You have my complete sympathies and really, feel free to say whatever you need!