Your 1st time part 2 MEN & women

Twi, your "first time" topic has scratched my curiosity. I hate when that happens. I am intrigued. I'm curious.
We have read from the first "your first time" topic, how old you were and where it happened. NOW I want the "FULL" story. But about one main detail. My first time was not what I thought it would be, or what I expected or was not what I had heard it would be. It was nothing like all the stories I had heard about. I feel I was robbed and cheated out of what my first time, should have been like. SO, here is what I want from all the peole who reply.

FOR THE WOMEN:
So, during your first time how bad did it hurt? Did you cry or not? What was the guy's response and reaction to your first time expressions and reactions? Was he gentle or rough, did he try to comfort you or ease your pain? Did he comfort you afterwards, what did he say to you afterwards? Was he gentle and easy? Or did he try using the, "real quick gets the pain over quicker" method?
What was the experience of pain like your first time?

For the MEN:
Answer all the questions above as well from your point of view as from the one taking the virginity.