ok Gav,you got it. Do NOT throw in the towel. Do not let other people control your life with their idea of "what's in" As long as YOU love your music thats all that matters. You know there are still plenty of fans for your genre out there but you have to be realistic. You probably will not see fame and fortune in this lifetime unless you allow yourself to be molded into the shape that the industry dictates. If you retain your integrity and stay true to who you are you will ultimately be happy in the end with what you do. You have to really examine your montives. I know from being married to a musician though how frustrating what you are going through is. I also know that to a musician,music is like air..you need it to live. You have to make music. You might as well do it your way.
