The last major post I made was talking about my husband and I deciding to have a baby. Instead we are going to have a divorce.....I just need some support right now, and I am not sure where my life goes from here.
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The last major post I made was talking about my husband and I deciding to have a baby. Instead we are going to have a divorce.....I just need some support right now, and I am not sure where my life goes from here.
I'm sorry Craes. You're one of my favorite posters and I hate to see that you're in pain. I've been through the same thing and it's rough. If I can help you at all, send me a pm. I'm sure you feel horrible right now, but you'll probably look at it as a blessing in time.
maybe.....I miss him so much. I throw up everyday, I haven't anything but a can of peaches since Thursday...
Time to straighten up, Craes. I already don't like this. There is NO BODY in this world worth tormenting yourself over like that. Lots of fish in the sea, you don't need to worry about that one chicken.
You've got a second on that.
I know it's easier for us on the outside to say that, but it's absolutely true.
I know....I really do and I have tried to eat and have been going to work I have tried to do productive things....I just hurt so bad right now and there is nothing that can be done.
You need to eat something. Your system is going to shut down on you.
I would say my MS will take a hit too.
Time to straighten up! You gotta take of those kids in that picture let alone yourself. [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] Pain is part of life, you'll pass through this like you have lots of other things (ms ect.). You'll look back in a short time and think of the things you're doing now as very foolish.
Just think about #1,, and that is YOU....no one else will take care of you like you can yourself,,,,,, HANG TOUGH,,, and look at what can be!!!
You're the better person here.
and you have a child to consider.
You and the child come first. Dont let anyone play mind games with you or have a choke hold on your emotions/ability to move on.
A man should not have a hold on your happiness. It's 2006 and you're a strong educated woman. You can take care of you
guys I know I need to think of myself here, and I have to some extent, but my world came crashing down, and I have to pick itup
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I know....I really do and I have tried to eat and have been going to work I have tried to do productive things....I just hurt so bad right now and there is nothing that can be done.
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I have been there. It is one of the worst feelings I have ever felt. I tried everything to shake it. One thing I did was buy a Kawasaki Ninja. Then I decided to quit my job therefore lost the Ninja. I stayed drunk everyday. I always kept a 5th of something in my vehicle and started on it first thing every morning. All that made things worse! I thought of doing alot of bad things to myself. Then finally I met my wife now and have three beautifull daughters. I tell you right now gal the only way for you is up. I cant tell you to forget about this guy because you wont be able to. I can tell you to ride the bumpy road on out because you will get over this. Always keep yourself with a friend and try not to be alone at this time. This will help. Also pull out the good book and call up on the Lord. He will send you comfort. Just dont do anything bad. You have way too many loved ones that care about you!
the way i see it, if he is someone who would leave you at a time when you need him...he is not someone you need to waste any time crying over
from what ive seen you post, youre a pretty remarkable person...some jerk just lost a lot and he should be the one in pain and you should be the one who is looking forward
so what does a fat single person around here anyway lol
Don't put yourself through this for him or anybody else. I am going to assume from your post, and I may have misunderstood, that this must be his idea. If so he is NOT worth all the torment. Let it go and get on with your life.
Woah, caught off guard by this I was.
First off, its going to hurt, if it didn't hurt, you didn't care, and we know thats not the case. Second, don't expect to feel better immediately, same notion as the first. If you put anything into a relationship, its going to hurt for a bit. Third, don't be self destructive. You're self destructive, you let them win. Now I don't know you, or if I do know you don't know that I know you, but you don't strike me as someone who likes to give in and let someone win. You've got MS, that means you're a battler. The first thing you have to do is pick yourself up, look at what you got good, and say well D-A-M-N they are going to regret this. Life throws us all curveballs, and they wouldn't be good curves if we expected it. I always told one of my friends, and told myself this more than once, sometimes crappy things have to happen to get us to the right place to be happy. Sometimes it is absolutely horrible things, but when you get the happiness later, the horrible stuff doesn't seem so bad. You're a battler. Take care of yourself first. Getting sick and ending up in the hospital isn't going to help you feel better about things, if anything its going to make you feel worse. You can't run a marathon the first time you try to run. You have to build yourself up to it. A few small steps, fix something to eat, just small steps and you'll find that you can take longer walks each time. Good luck and God bless.
I can't say much more to you then what I told you when I was at your place Tuesday night, but to recap things for folks here: I cannot put into words the amount of respect that I have for you. You have overcome so much-having Ky as a baby yourself, MS, and much more, and in spite of these odds, you refused to become a statistic, and became a successful professional woman. I love you dearly sis. I thank God that we have been so close for well over a decade. He is going to see what he threw away. You have a daughter to look out for. Men may be temporary, but self-respect is forever. NEVER sell yourself short. You did everything for him, did everything to make it work on your end. He is destined to be a loser. You had to push him to get him to get off of his can to do anything. Unambitious louse. You have always been a fighter, and this is another battle. You are tougher than you think lady. Lorrie Morgan sings "I Didn't Know My Own Strength". That song has been going through my head as of late.
You always seem like a very strong lady. So fall back on what got you to where you are.
Be strong and build on the person you are. If you let you go, who wins? No one.
You have others that need you also.
The pain will ease in time. And as a person who is highly intelligent you have to go through the stages. As i know you know.
But you know also.
You have to keep yourself going, because you are the one who has to make things work.
Bare that chin one more time. And get back up and keep on going.
Guys I know I can survive, it is just hard ya know. I mean I want so much for it work and so much for him to be here. I have to grieve my loss and my mind is so messed up right now.....
Craes, my love, my dear, my dahhhhling
This is for you:
http://www.cklimek.com/videos/alien_song.php
We love you!
you go girl!
yeah that is life....that's how it is something then something else fall on your head lol
but it's funnier when something falls on an alien's head!
we were hoping to get a widdle bit of a giggle out of you.
so who wants to go out and get drunk???
don't worry not a coping skill, I just need to get plastered so I can get some emotions out
Come get drunk at the burton st. paul game so I can keep an eye on you! [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
bring the liquor! Indian_Dad's gonna need it by the 2nd quarter...
I am going ok today. I bought some V8 and gatorade to make sure I keep going.... I ate a banana not throwing up yay!!! I have lost 25 lbs since August and that is motivating me more and more, I have been exercising every day on the machine, I try to do 10 reps of what I do on there 2 to 3 times per day at least. Last night I was really down and out and had bad thoughts. Today I am doing much better.
Good to hear, Craes. [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/getsmile.tmp007816300.gif[/img] [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/beer1.gif[/img]
We love you!
Glad to hear you are doing better.
AH HA!! I knew you had a heart. [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
Don't tell anyone. [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
Nobody'd believe me. [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
I still hurt, I still have my confusion.....I just don't know what to do...
keep busy...do things you normally wouldnt...try new things...hang with friends...pick up new hobbies
don't try and drink it away, whatever you do, it doesnt solve a [censored] thing!
These last two posts by VT and Knight are nail hitters. At this time try not to be alone. Spend your nights with friends or family. Spend your days doing anything to keep you busy. It seems like forever but this will all be over soon. God Bless YOU.
Unless someone has gone through it, they have no idea what it's like. It's easy to sit and say " don't worry about it" when it isn't your life. I can tell you that it DOES get better. It's gonna hurt for awhile. If it didn't, you wouldn't have a heart. I still miss my ex-wife and step daughter. I'll never forget the time I spent with them. The good times outweight the bad times, but I know that they're both happy now and they're doin good. I find peace in that. I won't sugar coat it. It's gonna take time for things to settle down. Keep your head up and be strong. Surround yourself with family and friends as much as possible. If you're sitting around and start to think too much, call a friend. We'll keep ya in our thoughts. Hang in there.
I am trying....I saw him and his girlfriend drive by today....first time I have seen him since he left me.
You dont have to have gone through it to understand it, you just have to have loved someone IMO.
Hmmm him and his girlfriend, now that definitely doesn't go good for him and any form of separation.
He says I complained a lot and there was always something. Over the last month and a half I have tried, I would have done anything for him. anything. He says he won't talk to me because I ask when he is coming home, biggest thing is I want to know wtf? He came home to me Wednesday night telling me how much he loved me and was in love with me knowing he was leaving me the next day. I know I complained, but he would never tell me what all was bothering him. He said that just wasnt him. I would have done anything, he didn't want to tell me what was wrong. He chose to not tell me, and chose for it not to work. I still love him and I always will, but I can't take this pain anymore.