Why do most of the friends you had growing up turn out to be non friends. Life is strange.
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Why do most of the friends you had growing up turn out to be non friends. Life is strange.
I think you just grow apart. I don't speak regularly to anyone I knew growing up.
I dont think that happens with all of them though. I have two cousins I have been best friends with all our lives. Other than that I dont have many friends left I grew up with. We all change and like Lung said just plain grow apart. Sometimes we meet new friends that we just have more in common with than old friends. I have one cousin I grew up with and probably spent more time around than the other two cousins. We would do most anything together. Even joined the Military together. Now he has screwed his life up with drugs. I had offered to help him but if anyone knows someone on drugs they know how that went. He got so bad that he was stealing pain meds from our grandmother. Thats when it pissed many of us off. She is in a lot of pain with out them and would run out a week or more too early. Thats when we found out he had done it. I just hope he finally straightens up soon.
I see what you all are saying, but life is a strange animal. I like you two though!!!!!!
You're good people it'll be ok. :)
Life goes on. When you're young, there isn't much to get in the way. As you grow older, your obligations change.
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Originally Posted by Deano68
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Originally Posted by NotSoSilentBob
When I think of friends, I think of people you can call and talk to when stuff bothers you. Not just at their convenience. When I'm someone's friend, I'm always their friend.
I agree with NSSB, too. But I also think as you get older you learn what makes a true friend.
i really dont talk to anyone i went to school with on a regular basis. the only people i hang out with now are people i work with. i try to contact some of my old friends but our interests have changed. i drink maybe twice a year now and it seems that most of my old friends only want to party. i also work all the time and am married so that gets in the way too.
Friendship's a 2-way street. If you had a friend where all you did was bitch about stuff, and all he/she did was bitch about stuff when you talked...that would get old eventually. You've got to share the good stuff too. I've cut people out of my life entirely that were friends w/me for years that just want to continually have drama/complaints as the central point of my friendship with them. It wears on a person to get nothing but negativity back in a friendship.Quote:
I think of people you can call and talk to when stuff bothers you. Not just at their convenience.
AND--if I haven't cut out certain people altogether, I know not to pick up the phone when certain friends call b/c I already know it's a bitch session about to ensue, while I'm busy trying to have a good time w/family and other friends...and I don't want that ruined b/c I'm trying to sacrifice myself and my good times for the sake of being the friend who's "always there".
Not saying that's your case or even close to it--just sharing my experiences as far as friendship goes.
It's easy to have friends when you're seeing them every day at school. When you get older and you all have various obligations, it is hard to maintain a friendship. Kids, work, etc. all take up a lot of time.
I stay in contact with my core group from high school. We don't see each other nearly as often, but we try to get together two or three times a year. Sometimes it's hard to even do that as we work different schedules and do different things. I have a hard time doing anything other than working and fishing.
x2 on what NSSB said. Theres 4 of us from HS that get together a few times a year when we can and take semi annual trip to PF together for a weekend renting out a cabin.
I never see the folks that were my friends from HS...many moved away and quite a few have died. The only friends I ever see are the ones I've made within the past 10 years.