When People Grow up?

I have a story strange but true, so sit down and listen, because I don't have a clue on what to do..

Here goes, When I was younger I would baby sit two kids(a girl and her brother who was older than her), their mom and dad, are friends with my mom and dad... Now jump forward, seventeen years, give or take a few... I was invited to the girls wedding yesterday.. Well I hadn't seen her brother in like six years and we all was having a good time last night, and when he walked me to my truck, he told me that he always had a huge crush on me, and we kissed, I thought it was just going to be a friendly kiss, but it was smack dab on the lips.. Problem 1. He's married(no kids) Problem 2. I felt like I was still kissing a young boy, even if he is 27... Now what do I do about this, should I talk to him about what happen, or should I just let it go.. He said if he thought he ever had a chance with me, he would get divorced right away.. Help, what to do?

<font color="#CC6633" size="1">[ September 21, 2003 07:36 PM: Message edited by: Snow Kitten ]</font>

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<font color="#CC6633" size="1">[ September 23, 2003 04:44 PM: Message edited by: Tee Ehn ]</font>

Ok, not to be judgemental, and it's not towards you, but HE'S MARRIED! He has a huge problem I think. If he is saying "if he had a chance he would divorce his wife", it sounds like to me he is just looking for a way out of a marriage he doesn't really want to be in, for him to spit that out that quick. I have been on both sides of the fence, but more than enough times I have been the wife sitting at home, worrying myself to death about where my ex husband was, what or I should say WHO he was doing. Just put yourself in her place. Would you want to be a part of the reason that she sits up late at night worrying and wondering? All I'm saying is put yourself in her shoes.
I would tell him, "That's right you are married! If you would have made a move sooner, LIKE, BEFORE you were married, then we might could discuss a "you & I". But if you leave your wife, it has to be for your own personal reasons. It has to be your decision about you, and I do not want to be a part of you leaving your wife. I do not want to be the reason you leave your wife. I will have NO part of that."
Then I would leave it at that. If it turns out he leaves her and divorces her anyway, because of his own persoanl problems with her, and his true, own personal reasons and you run into him again and he is INFACT single, then I would take it into consideration.
I guess my husband Rich and my love for him, has changed me so completely and made me do such a 180 that I can't see cheating on anyone for any reason anything positive or something good. I can say 200% without a doubt, I will never cheat on my husband Rich. I know without a shadow of a doubt in my mind, there is not another man alive ANYWHERE, that can treat me better or love me the way he does. I just don't suggest anyone cheating for any reason. Because 2 things are a FACT!!!! No matter how many times I hear about someone cheating, no matter what the situation, 2 things ALWAYS remains.

1. Someone ALWAYS gets hurt!!
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2. The TRUTH, ALWAYS comes out. No matter how hard you try to hide it, and no matter how bad you don't want it too, the TRUTH always, always comes out!

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I will never cheat on my husband Rich

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<font size="3" face=" Arial,Tekton,">*shakes my finger at you*...k then no more luv for you, no more of that shiver quivering whisper in your ear do me til dawn Tee kinda luv'n...nope you're officially cut off.

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aahheemmm* clears my throat* TEE EHN, I said with a MAN *L* *follows you out of the room, kissing your ass with whatever I can say to get you to give me back the Tee Ehn "love" *L*

oh that would be easy for you to do Genie Genie quiet contrary how does your disco ball turn...just be nice when you go to walmart..no more pushing lil ol ladies and no parkin in the handicap....

Damn, you must have saw that video tape of me pushing down the little ole' lady infront of that car that was backing up and about to back over her*L*

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you need help.

I was kidding ofcourse! *L* I would never push an old lady in front of a car backing up! *L* Not unless she started beating me over the head with her walking cane for no reason *L*

1) if he plans on cheating or leaving her for you.. the marriage was doomed long before you got there.

2) If you cheat with him it may be his excuse to leave but I doubt he will run to you.. prolly feel to guilty.

3) If he does happen to go for you... you already know he would cheat to get what he wants or when he gets bored so why would you want that?

4) if they (meaning both of them) would have been doing what they should HAVE been then he would have looked but he wouldnt have ever made the move would have he?

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*pulls the soapbox out from under you....

Everybody loves Snow LOL.

I have to agree with Cyalaytr on something. If he has cheated on her, for whatever reason. He got bored or whatever, I agree with Cyalaytr on the point, what makes you think if he did end up with you, years down the road he wouldn't do the same thing to you? What if he ends up with you, and years later he ends up running into another "childhood" friend that he once had a crush on, and makes the same move on her that he did on you? Snow, I think the point we are all trying to make is we just don't want to see YOU, get hurt. I know I don't, I know Tee Ehn doesn't want to see you get hurt. Please do not take what I said as bad mouthing you or bad advise, I just do not want you getting hurt over a man. Ok?

HA!

She done got my opinoin soon after she posted this....see that eye roll up there *points*...

behind that eye roll was alot of minutes, i used my minutes and the ones sassy had built up lol..

of course she caught me on the day that it was my turn to hate men and call them fukkres with very few exceptions of course...LOL

izzz all good genie genie quiet contrary, we ask for opinions we take the good with the bad...(and delete the rest LOL.)

Ok, I want to thank you all for being SO honest..*S*.. I have been doing a lot of thinking.. I don't know what's going to happen, I do know that I will not let anything happen with him, until he is divorced and on his own, WITHOUT any help from me.. I don't know why it happen the other night, and it happen so fast and I was so off guard, that I didn't even see it coming, because I had never seen him in that way before.. But now that I have, I will keep a guard up from now on. I think what messed with my head so much was here is a man, that knew me when I was a size 2 and here I am after two kids, a bad marriage and life taking it's toll on me, and he still finds me sexy and that made me feel good inside, to know that there are men out there that feel that way about me.. I hadn't got to hear all those nice things in awhile.. I guess it just felt so good to be wanted, ya know? [img]redface.gif[/img]

You want to feel wanted... Nothing wrong with him now deciding the path he choose wasnt right for him. Tell him if he wants you that bad then to go to the current wife and ask for a divorce. When that is final then you will think about it. Life is all about chances. If he is serious and he leaves her without the promise of you then you know he must be real in his intentions. If not then you know he just wanted in your ummmmmm pants.

Between now and then ... just remind him of how silly he was in not picking you. [img]eek.gif[/img]

you didn't get that billboard for no apparent reason there genie genie quiet contrary how does your disco ball spin...with bright lil twirls and men and girls thats how your disco ball should spin.

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