Query for you parents out there....

Okay...lemme see if can find the problem here....

40 something guy nails 16yo hottie......legally.

Still searching.......

Still seraching.......

Nope sorry. Don't see the problem! [img]wink.gif[/img]

I was gonna say.....if there's one person on this board who (based on some of his past postings) better NOT have a problem with it..... [img]wink.gif[/img]

Here's the article:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/storyid=3305652&page=1

I don't know if that works or not, Gae, but in case it doesn't....

In a nutshell, a 40 year-old track coach in North Carolina married one of his runners, who is 16. The parents begrudgingly signed the papers.

I'm not a parent, but here's my question (and it's actually two-fold):

1) Would you have signed the consent form?

and

2) I imagine most of feel this marriage will likely fail. And the odds are that it will. But let's suppose 15 years pass by, and they're still happily married, have kids, a good home, are basically a solid, healthy, happy couple.....does your analysis change? I mean, is there a line of forgiveness here?

Back in the old days this age difference was common. It actually makes sense.

Men reach their sexual peek at 18, woman reach theirs at 40

Subtract 16 from 40 and you get 24

Add 24 to 40 and you get 64

Add 24 to 16 and you get 40

Most men kicked the bucket by 64 so the widow is now single and at her sexual peek keeping all those young men happy.

Ok, if it's two people (like these two) that I know nothing about, I just go ahead and look at it as strange but at the same time to each his or her own.

But...
If I am the parent of the student?
NO WAY, NO HOW, AINT GONNA HAPPEN!
I am not a parent either, but there is no way that I would let my teenage daughter (if I had one) marry someone who was older than me [img]graemlins/gulp.gif[/img] [img]mad.gif[/img] [img]eek.gif[/img]

Again, it's their life and if their families are ok with it then I guess I'll just look at it as strange and kinda odd. If it l;asts, good for them.

My daughter is 16. If this happened in our family, sure I'd sign the papers - charging that coach with statutory rape!

But again, Lan.....say, for whatever reasons, you go ahead and sign the paper. And then 15 years from now, all is well, you're playing with your grandkids.......is all forgiven at that point?

And again, don't get me wrong, I think this guy has serious issues (yes, Jumper, I think you have issues, too [img]wink.gif[/img] ) I'm speaking only hypothetically here....

Well I guess IF I signed consent for her to marry, all would have to be forgiven at that point. Yer creepin' me out. Again...

It's not a permission slip for a field trip or anything like that.

I just cannot see myself signing something like that under any circumstance.

And how is this guy employed after having a relationship with a student [img]mad.gif[/img]

Lan-

it was never my intent to creep you out; if I wanted to do that, I'd email you those pictures of Gae and I doing karaoke dressed-up as the Captain and Tenille.

Where all of this started, I once worked with a guy who, when he was 18, married as 17-year old. No one thought it would work, it caused a lot of hard feelings between the families, etc.

Well, over 20 years later, they're still married, 4 kids, a pretty good life, and all was eventually forgiven. Yet interestingly enough, he told me that he and his wife would not want their kids to marry in their teens, and would do everything in their power to stop it. They feel they got very lucky in their case but that the odds would be against their kids if they tried it.

When I first read this story I was reminded of my friend. Now granted, there is a big difference between 18 marrying 17 vs. 40 marrying 16. And you're preaching to the choir as respects me, I didn't get married until I was 34 and would never allow a child of mine to marry ever......at any age...... [img]wink.gif[/img]

I'm 100% with Landroid on this one. That scum would be slapped with the predator label for life if I had anything to say about it. [img]mad.gif[/img]

Get to bang a 16 year old.... hmmm.... never hear the end of it from my friends so it wouldn't be worth it.

18 & 17 year olds, well that happens all the time. Funny how society changes - 100 years ago, I don't think 13 year old girls marrying 16 year old boyz was unusual either. At what age did a woman become a spinster - 25? I s'pose 16 year olds marrying a man of 40 was more common when there was a clear aristocracy, a family happy that their girl is marrying into money, way above her station, and one less mouth to feed. And going way back, la droit de seigneur. Yuck...

What if it is a 44 yo and a 27 yo student, is that any different?

Or I'll throw another wrinkle. For sake of illustration, in Alabama consent can be obtained for a 14 year old. In Iowa, the age of consent is 16.

So suppose 15 year-old Alabama bride honeymoons in Iowa with her 20 year-old husband. Yes, Iowa has to recognize the marriage contract, but what's to stop a prosecutor from charging the groom with statutory rape? It doesn't happen enough to have any real body of law developed on it, but it's coming. And I'm not really sure what the answer is.

If it wasn?t for all you damn Lincolnites we wouldn?t have one State imposing it?s will over the citizens of another State.