-
Sorry if this is just another pointless ramble but I need to talk to someone for advice. I can't talk to my mother because this is what the post is about. To make a long story short..
I started driving last year. So far, I just have my permit but should already have my license by now. I'm not afraid of driving, it just takes me a while to get used to it. I will eventually get my license. I just need a lot more practice. [img]smile.gif[/img]
Anyways, my mother thinks that since I havn't went after my license yet and havn't drove much that I will turn out just like her. She is afraid or cars and driving. My dad has to drive her everywhere.
I want to get a job at an art called Micheals but it's to far for me to walk so my dad would have to take me till I got my license and a car. I have asked over a month now for him to take me back and turn my application back in for the job.
Thanks to my mom, I don't think I will ever get over there again. She told my dad not to take me over there because he wont be doing me any favors by driving me over there and picking me up all the time because I have to be driving.
The major point is, she went behind my back and sorta backstabbed me the way a friend would. She also lied to me. She said she trusted me in everything. But I guess she doesn't trust me that I will ever drive. I know she is doing it out of love but she needs to go with her words and trust me.
Now here's your part. Do you think I am throwing this whole situation out of hand? If not, what should I do about it? It's not the first time something like this has happened. She has done other things like this to me.
If I have to, I'll fricking walk or ride my bike the 20 mile trip to work and back everyday because I love drawing and art. Argh! I'm so confused and hurt. I can't even trust my own mother anymore. [img]graemlins/cry.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/cry.gif[/img]
~~?Cu?ndo no puedo confiar en mi propia madre, que puede confianza en ?
-
Mandy... my reply is at Sony too...
Come on MSN when you can so we can talk okay??????
((huge hugs))
-
Something that might seem small to outsiders can be upsetting! So it's ok to feel hurt.
I would concentrate on getting a license.
Does your dad take you out to practice? I think if you show your mom you are serious, she will back off.
If you dad can't take you practicing, can you go with a friend or another relative? All else failing, save your cash and get lessons or ask for driving lessons for a present.
If you actively schedule a date for the test, that will make you practice and make people take you seriously.
Good luck on the job! One word of warning - it is bad to work for a place where you like the stuff they sell, you will never ever bring home any of your money...
you might be better off getting a job near by that will make you save money and then you can buy your art stuff anyway : )
good luck!!
-
Thanks MissRose and PurpleHayes [img]smile.gif[/img] [img]smile.gif[/img]
-
I did find out why my mother has been acting so different towards me though. She talked to me yesterday saying she was thinking of sucide and that she just doesn't want to play the game of life anymore. She says she needs and wants to get serious help. She doesn't believe that anyone can help her t hough. I'll keep praying that she is all right.
-
keep practising - show her you CAN do it [img]smile.gif[/img]
-
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><table border="0" width="90%" bgcolor="#333333" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="0"><tr><td width="100%"><table border="0" width="100%" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" bgcolor="#FF9900"><tr><td width="100%" bgcolor="#DDDDDD"><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by _TearDropOnFire_:
I did find out why my mother has been acting so different towards me though. She talked to me yesterday saying she was thinking of sucide and that she just doesn't want to play the game of life anymore. She says she needs and wants to get serious help. She doesn't believe that anyone can help her t hough. I'll keep praying that she is all right.</font></td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>
take her to a doctor. Maybe some sort of medication or therapy would help?
-
She has tried anti-depressants but they don't work on her. She needs to get some counseling (sp?) This is really tough.. [img]frown.gif[/img]
-
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><table border="0" width="90%" bgcolor="#333333" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="0"><tr><td width="100%"><table border="0" width="100%" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" bgcolor="#FF9900"><tr><td width="100%" bgcolor="#DDDDDD"><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by _TearDropOnFire_:
She has tried anti-depressants but they don't work on her. She needs to get some counseling (sp?) This is really tough.. [img]frown.gif[/img] </font></td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>
try counselling...you have to find whats wrong.
if the anti-d's haven't worked then maybe she needs a stronger dose?
they take 3 weeks to kick-ion remember...how long was she on them?
-
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><table border="0" width="90%" bgcolor="#333333" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="0"><tr><td width="100%"><table border="0" width="100%" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" bgcolor="#FF9900"><tr><td width="100%" bgcolor="#DDDDDD"><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by Magenta_Feelings:
try counselling...you have to find whats wrong.
if the anti-d's haven't worked then maybe she needs a stronger dose?
they take 3 weeks to kick-ion remember...how long was she on them?</font></td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>
She was on them for over a year. The doctors di increase the dose but that still didn't help so I guess she does need counselling. Maybe she needs a different type of anti-D?
-
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><table border="0" width="90%" bgcolor="#333333" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="0"><tr><td width="100%"><table border="0" width="100%" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" bgcolor="#FF9900"><tr><td width="100%" bgcolor="#DDDDDD"><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by _TearDropOnFire_:
She was on them for over a year. The doctors di increase the dose but that still didn't help so I guess she does need counselling. Maybe she needs a different type of anti-D?</font></td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>
Yeah maybe.
book her an appointment asap hun.
good luck [img]smile.gif[/img]
-
Thanks [img]smile.gif[/img]
-
let us know how it goes, okay? [img]wink.gif[/img]
-
I surely will. Thanks for the help. *hugs*
~Mandie
-
Then you should have done it instead of leaving it cos I'm not in the mood for funny today.
Michelle
xx
-
I can't remember what it said now, but I am glad it's gone - I do remember it annoyed me and I didn't trust myself to answer at the time....
-
Thanks, Sue [img]smile.gif[/img]
It annoyed me as well, hence it being deleted [img]smile.gif[/img]
Michelle
xx
-
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><table border="0" width="90%" bgcolor="#333333" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="0"><tr><td width="100%"><table border="0" width="100%" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" bgcolor="#FF9900"><tr><td width="100%" bgcolor="#DDDDDD"><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by Juliet10:
If any of you are wondering where jedimaster's reply went (although I don't know why you would be), I deleted it as we don't need people from other boards who know nothing about any of us coming along and saying that kind of thing.
Michelle
xx</font></td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>
Thanks, Michelle [img]smile.gif[/img] I had noticed their post quite awhile ago. I was going to respond but decided not to. I have a few more things to worry about than a rude post [img]smile.gif[/img] [img]smile.gif[/img]
-
Slight update today about the whole situation. I drove to the store today with my mom and dad in the car.
My mom was critizing me the whole way there and back along with my dad. [img]frown.gif[/img] Needless to say, I made it back home with no trouble despite the storm clouds forming in the car.
Should I call someone for my mom since she isn't calling anyone? I thought she was and she said she was going to but she never did. Any ideas?
-
If any of you are wondering where jedimaster's reply went (although I don't know why you would be), I deleted it as we don't need people from other boards who know nothing about any of us coming along and saying that kind of thing.
Michelle
xx
-
i think it would have benn funner to just alter his reply abit.. [img]tongue.gif[/img]
-
Hun I really don't know what is best to do. Can you talk to your dad about it - or another family member? The problem with getting involved is that they may not be able to help her without her consent anyway - and would she then be mad at you for "interfering"?
However, it sounds like maybe she is crying out for help by telling you what she did about not wanting t play the game of life anymore. Perhaps you could have a quiet word with a doctor, just to ask advice about what if anything you can do???
I'm sorry I can't be more helpful. Doesn't help that different countries have different systems for healthcare, and I only know anything about the UK.
As for the driving - I am with what the others said, do your best to find a way to get your license, actively look into that and it gives your mum one less thing to stress at you over. However if she's ill, she will doubtless find something else. Try not to let it get to you - I have suffered with depression several times myself, sometimes for years at a time, and you see the world as a very twisted place and take it out on those you love. Or at least, I did!
(((Hugs)))
-
I really don't know what to say.
Your Mom is seriously ill and needs help.
I know this is pretty hard on you right now, but please don't blame your mom too much. She is ill and as saleomeuk said, she will view everything in a different light at the moment. 'She means not what she does'.
She proberbly will be mad at you for interferring, but you have to do it anyway. She may give you a hard time over it but in the long-run it will be worth it if she recovers.
Were here for you when you need to vent over this. You gotta get her someone to talk to too.
*huge hugs*
