young old fat thin rich poor

Ok since we seem to have a lot of smart ones who roam here....

The sexes and their differances. Why is it that between man an woman we seem drawn to those that are not drawn to us? Is it the media presence that tells us who to like and we use that as our barometer for life or is it built into the code. I mean you dont see gay cows running around chasing each other, and you dont see a Bay Watch Babe knocking on my door... yet if you ask us both who we are drawn to you would get different answers and yet if you ask the majority of people if they are with the person they are with now because of attraction and how that is working for them now... what would the answer be?

In the past it seemed those that I was physically attacted to I had a rougher go at the relationship then say someone of a lesser attraction.

Is it that with the attraction comes higher priorities among things like sex, ET, life sytles as oposed to people you are less attracted to and say you get along like friends so those big items dont get in the way as often so less to fight about??

I read on a diff board.... (no names mentioned) that in the beginning it was easy to live life and things were easy with the couple and now a few years down the road it isnt all that easy. I didn't ask the two bluntly if they felt that they were more attracted in the beginning then they are now or that if some how because that newness wore off each is looking for a new pasture but I wanted to.

With all the philosphy that flies thru here I wonder... do the things we place as values for a mate ie ( young, older, thinner, fatter, richer, poorer) have anything to do with how well we work together as couples once we are past the physical attraction. As animals I think we would seek out the opposite sex and as long as they fit the requirement of being able to procreate what more could we ask?

OMAR?? Since Shatzy has not taken a stab at any of my controversial stuff lately... and you are on line... HELP !! (SHATZY... [img]wink.gif[/img] Just trying to fire ya up)

personally, i think you have the answer....

but maybe you are trying to escape it [img]wink.gif[/img] [img]tongue.gif[/img]

(touche)

nope nope nop eI looked... no answer there. Hence why I came here. They said Seek Shatzy and She shall set your mind free. [img]biggrin.gif[/img]

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Originally posted by Cyalaytr:
Is it the media presence that tells us who to like and we use that as our barometer for life or is it built into the code.

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">methinks it is built into the hardwiring....
however, due to consistant social cues (since
before you were born, cya)... that coding has
been skewed into a dramatically different
perspective. blame society.

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Originally posted by Cyalaytr:
In the past it seemed those that I was physically attacted to I had a rougher go at the relationship then say someone of a lesser attraction.

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">ding! ding! ding!
now the question you must ask yourself:

do i really find that *X* attractive? or is
my perspectives on what is attractive not really
my own... but what has been spoon-fed to me?

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Originally posted by Cyalaytr:
Is it that with the attraction comes higher priorities among things like sex, ET, life sytles

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">this again, imo, is based on our capitalistic
society... its what we value (even in terms
of personal character traits)

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Originally posted by Cyalaytr:
as oposed to people you are less attracted to and say you get along like friends so those big items dont get in the way as often so less to fight about??

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">mental exercise:

if there were 20 people for every city... and
everyone else died, would the previous character
traits apply?

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Originally posted by Cyalaytr:
do the things we place as values for a mate ie ( young, older, thinner, fatter, richer, poorer) have anything to do with how well we work together as couples once we are past the physical attraction.

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">of course not. its two separate systems of value.

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Originally posted by Cyalaytr:
As animals I think we would seek out the opposite sex and as long as they fit the requirement of being able to procreate what more could we ask?

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">here is your answer [img]smile.gif[/img]

ok good.. now all that out of the way and explained..... not to open a can of worms or only pick on Shatzy, but explain why you are with the person you chose to be with today as a partner be it a wife , husband, boyfriend, girl friend. Then compair that to those answers. I keep getting the I what is real in my head, I think I know what is medea driven, and I know what I find attractive yet all that lead me not where I am today. If anything it was more of a rebelious state of mind of Screw it all ... amd in the end it all worked. [img]eek.gif[/img]

our desire to have a certain standard for a mate
is no different than our drive for utter happiness.

neither one truly exists... but they are established
so that we give reason to limit/judge our current
situation.

we are never truly happy... so the standard for
happiness is there to establish a meter to judge
our present.

think about it -- fantasy is what gives us drive

if our fantasies were easily attainable, what
would drive us? (this is also an opener for
self-sabotage within a decent relationship)

i do not find th typical media-inspired person
to be overly attractive (which still calls to
question if its based on media).

but as for your question of contentment within
sub-standard limits -- there really is no doubt
that you will be content with average... because
we all know it to be true, but due to our need
for the fantasy standard.... it skews our perspective.

The only thing I know about women is that they cost. Oh, and my specialty is fat women (a black thing ya know). So anything I say about women (which, as I've stated will/can only be 'they cost') is about fat women.

<font size="1">No offense to any fat women reading this. Remember, "I" like you</font>

<font color="#ffffff" size="1">[ September 04, 2003 04:56 AM: Message edited by: Omar de Fati ]</font>

I'm cost free [img]cool.gif[/img]
I hate money being spent on me [img]tongue.gif[/img]

um cya have you ever lived on a farm???

sorry to go off topic but one line stood out 'you never say gay cows run off after one another' errrr for starters all cows are female [img]eek.gif[/img]


but there most certainly are gay bulls

the thing with standards.. you'll only keep them when they're applicable. When the choice is narrowed down to just a few other possible mates, you'll eventually end up with one of those.

At least, that's what i think [img]redface.gif[/img]

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Originally posted by The 4 Horsemen 11:
um cya have you ever lived on a farm???

sorry to go off topic but one line stood out 'you never say gay cows run off after one another' errrr for starters all cows are female [img]eek.gif[/img]


but there most certainly are gay bulls

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">What you cant be female and be gay? Or does it work diff on that side of the world? Or is it you would have just prefered that I refered to your cows as lesbian cows

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What you cant be female and be gay?

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">Nice save.

shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh [img]wink.gif[/img]

I think as men were atracted to women we want to make a conquest out of.Women that feel like a challenge to get and thus when we bag them we feel more masculine.Plus,its much more interesting to have a conversation with someone that disagrees with you then one that parrots all your thoughts.

Marriage needs more then the willingness to procreate.The ex and i loved to practice procreating,even in the worst of times,it was everything else we didnt have in common.So to answer that part of your inquiry,you need more then sex to have a lasting relationship.

I think we are attracted by people most like ourselves.