YOUR OPINION PLEASE

ok... got in a bit of a tizzy with 4H over
this scenario... so i'm going to put it up
here for you guys to tell me what you would
suggest to happen... be honest and post your
thoughts, please...

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person A and person B share an apartment.
for some reason i feel obligated to state
that this apartment consists of 3 bedrooms,
one bathroom, one living room, a kitchen.. blah blah

ok... so we have person A and person B sharing
this place.

person A has friends over all the time...
hanging out, etc.

on one particular night, person A has the
friends over at the apartment as per usual.
person B is out with friends. person B
makes a call to person A requesting that the
apartment be 'emptied' (ie -- free from
person A's friends) for the evening because
person B wishes to bring friends over.

it is important to note that when person B
calls person A, they want the people to leave
in about 10 minutes... and its midnight.
if you need that info.

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there's the setup... now... i cannot ask
you anything other than what you suggest
happen next.

there will be a second part to this scenario
added in the future... but for right now
i'm sticking to the base foundation right
now. so please... respond away. 4H and i
aren't going to post (hopefully) until after
we get a few replies and i can post the
second part to this scenario.

post away, bebes

Well... If Person A was having a full on arranged party or something.. and was too hard to ship people off, then I would have to say sorry Person B, but next time there won't be any excuses.

If however it were just friends over, just hanging out doing nothing.. No probs.. I'd just tell them all to get the feck out..

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It all depends... are either Person A or Person B hippies?

Ithink person A was in the right. There was a request and person B has their friends over all the time.

It's not called sharing an appartment for nothing and person A has a right to entertain on occasion to and it wasn't like they just came in with their friends and rudely started to rudely chase all of B's friends off.

fearing that i might do to 4horse that i already said i wouldnt and take sides i believe also that person A did nothing wrong... [img]redface.gif[/img]

you CAN NOT 4horse hurt me for this now [img]redface.gif[/img]

i think we have our person A's and B's around the wrong way... i think the person whoo phoned did nothing wrong...

the point was to make this thread as objective
as possible.... *glares at oranges*

and autumn... i'm not sure i follow your post
very well. it SEEMS like you are saying person
B should be respected... but i can't tell.

I mixed up my letters ( [img]redface.gif[/img] )I was meaning person A.

I need to start using the mini reminder at the bottom of the reply page. [img]graemlins/wilted.gif[/img]

Things need to be pre-arranged..and when they are spur of the moment like this one is..whichever one last had company over..is the one who has to turn company away ..

person A had company over friday..person B calls sat and says..hey..ive friends coming..empty apartment..person A must say..ok..done..then its their turn again..sounds fair to me.. [img]tongue.gif[/img]

god forbid the two groups actually have to socially interact with one another

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Originally posted by TastinGood:
god forbid the two groups actually have to socially interact with one another

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<font size="4" face="Tempus Sans ITC, Tahoma">Thanks,you beat me to my reply.

If B and A's friends cant get along then what the hell are they living together for.B and A must also be so diferent as to be mismatched in sharing an abode.

I should have asked..i assumed it was one of those..hey ive met a girl..and i want some time alone..kinda things.. [img]redface.gif[/img] so calling and warning them to all be gone..so he can ..umm..get his groove on.. [img]tongue.gif[/img]

interesting notion there guys

*smacks foreheard*


(shatzy if im still not allowed to post yet then delete this, ok)

ok heres what happened ... (once again shatz you may delete this if you wish)


basically i was at home with my other flatmate and two of our friends we were watching some tv and having food etc just generally hanging i guess (after an important sporting event [img]wink.gif[/img] )

our flatmate text me and said im bringing home a friend and hes staying on the couch and wants to go to sleep, im ten minutes away.

i replied and said sweet as he can stay but i have friends over and we are in the lounge so sleep might not happen straight away.

she sent back your friends always stay i think its my turn.

to which i replied they will be leaving sooner or later as none are staying but im not asking them to leave.

flatmate cam home pissed off with b/f slammed door hasnt spoken to me since.

End of story

(actually theres a few nasty things shes done to try get back at me in the last 2 days but i havent bitten ... yet)

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I'd put fish oil alll through your clothes if I was your flatmate [img]graemlins/grrr.gif[/img]

or icing sugar in your sheets?

goes nice and sticky when you sleep

uhh.. yeah... THAT TOO!!! [img]graemlins/grrr.gif[/img]

your damn agressive there babi, you like that in bed? [img]confused.gif[/img]

I'd be lying if I said no [img]wink.gif[/img]

i've been in a similar situation, to an extent...

i say that since you are roommates, you share the living area. when i lived in an apartment with a roommate, we had people over every single night. some nights i wanted to go to bed before 3 in the morning. i wasn't about to tell our guests to get out and leave, especially since my roommate was still hanging out and stuff. that's just rude to kick out your guests, just because you are a party pooper.

finally, if the b/f that was coming over was wanting to go to sleep, he had at least two options that i can tell, he could A) sleep with the girl in her bedroom or B) sleep in the other bedroom (assuming there is a place in the other bedroom to sleep)

that's my two cents

my point was the fact that YOU (4H) claimed to
have your friends over <u>all the time</u> and on
this particular evening... your roommate called
and requested that she have the place to herself.

granted, she called 10 minutes prior to coming
home... but its not fair that you always have
your friends over and she just has to deal with
it every farking day.

the fact that you find it rude to ask your friends
to leave is weird to me. i don't care if it
WAS at midnight...

i would be PISSED if i had to share a place with
someone and i couldn't have the place free from
his friends for one gd night.

i would be additionally PISSED if the only compromise
was that i had to either share the place or go
into another room because you couldn't ask them
to leave.

in my opinion, she asked a favor of you... even
if it was to come home to an empty house for
10 minutes without your friends there. you weren't
willing to give that to her. so she threw a fit.

and rightfully so....

now you can say that i'm in the wrong... thats ok.
but i don't think ANYONE here can agree with
the fact that you can't give her the place
without your friends there.

i suggested to you that you could easily have
asked your friends to carry it to another place...
maybe one of their homes... but you can't see
what i'm saying.

as i told you a thousand times... its your way
or no way. she either had to deal with your
friends being there or go to her room.

and that... just isn't fair.

in response to dj's post....

yeah... i've lived in similar situations.. which
is why i have the stance that i have. i have been
on both the giving and recieving end of this
type of situation...

i suggested that 4H offer the next weekend to
his roommate... telling her that his friends
and he would go someplace else and she can have
the place to herself and her friends....

ie... compromise.

but apparently this has turned into a grotesque
powerplay and he doesn't want to 'give in'....

at any rate... i am not budging from my position.
i have offered a complimentary suggestion of
compromise and this is just ridiculous...

Couldn't girl and boyfriend have just gone and fucked real loud to make the other's in the house feel uncomfortable enough to leave... hell they wouldn't even need to actually fuck, just bang on the walls and say OO OO Whose your daddy...

the b/f isnt the peson in question in relation to staying over, he slept in her room as per norm,

my point was too that if the friend wanted to go to sleep straight away then why could he not sleep on a matress in her room?

as opposed to turning our living room into a bedroom

you mean YOUR living room...... http://www.webseth.com/forums/images...s/yahoo/45.gif

not true

i mean OUR,

its not like im in there anymore than her

haha how do you mean? Friends?

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I agree with shatz, sorry Chris..

shesh its not like they are there everyday or something

and guess what, 4H...

SHE'S FROM AUSTRALIA!

booyah on the culture clash

yeah... but you carry baggage.....

pfft australians are nothing like kiwis

do i need to cp the conversation which clearly
shows you claiming that aussies would agree?

was i drunk or stoned at the time?

you hadn't set the tone with either of those
preliminary statements. i'll just assume you
were the normal dork

lmao

What is your definition of a normal dork?

*points to 4H* [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Well, I didn't expect it to be THAT detailed.. but thanks [img]graemlins/thumbs_up.gif[/img]