Ex-Wives

It weird fellas i've known people married 25 yrs and now their divorcing.
It can happen. And i hate to say it. But Stripes i know the saying. In the end what i paid for my divorce i was more than glad to.
I was to the point it was destroying me mentally and physically.
And honestly when i met the woman and we dated and the first year or so we were married it was great.
Then it became a thing that i was always a liar or cheating or never spent enough time doing this or that?
And she knew my job and stuff, the long hours, and when i was off work, i tried to compensate and spend as much time as i could with her and her kids.
Yes i am not perfect and i can be head strong. But i will bend over backwards to try to make things work out, but it got to the point i couldn't make it work doing that.
Heck I even left phone numbers of places i would be working, but something happened, and man it went wrong. And it was as if i was the devil, and me never knowing what was going on half the time.
But i was always cheating and wrong and i never did a thing.
Finally when the doc told me release some of the stress or have a heart attack, i had to cut things loose. He said your in good physical condition, probably need to lose a few pounds. But stress is gonna kill you, if you don't let it go.
This is a topic i know that is hard for some.
But you know sometimes when you have done all you can. You have to make a decision, and esp. when your living in a house, where you are no longer able to say a word, or afraid to, because it will ignite something.
And i know it's on both sides men and women. I have a female friend who's husband demanded that dinner had to be on the table at 5:08 PM. And she had to have fresh bread from the bakery every day.
So it's just not us guys who go through hell sometimes.
I hate it for anyone. But i have learned, sometimes it's better to get out of a bad situation, it can hurt you in more ways than one staying in it.
I wish Indian_Dad and your friend the best Beast. Cause any long relationship is hard when it ends. But marriage and a person bent on vengeance, it makes it twice as hard.
I think sometimes when real life hits some just are not ready for it. And it does take work to make a marriage work, but it can't be all one sided. That is what kills most marriages, one wants it all and they lose the ability to talk to their partner about anything and everything, when you lose that. Look out because the marriage is headed for problems. Just some advice for those on here married. I've had other great relationships and the reason they worked was trust and the ability to talk and be painfully honest.

[Unchained]

Mine is so intent on making my life miserable, she doesn't see that it's destroying our sons. My consolation is that they will resent her later on for it, but she has ignored everything we were told in Kids First class. Yes, I do despise her, but from day one I have taken the high road and not let my sons hear negative comments about her-not so at all in her case. She uses them as weapons against me, and brainwashes them on a daily basis. Luckily for me, they are crazy about their daddy,and enjoy spending time with me. This woman thinks she is completely blameless. I stepped up to the plate and took my share of the blame, but not her. She is living in a bubble world full of denial. I wish to God she'd move on like I have. I paid off HER debts (thousands of dollars worth) to make it easier for her. I have voluntarily exceeded my child support requirement from day one, never been late/missed a single payment, bought the kids school clothes, and whatever they need, pay a 130 a month life insurance premium so that they will be financially ok when /if I die. I could go on forever. I fought next to nothing in my divorce, made it so easy on her (floored both my lawyer and the judge). I know that she'll be one of these old hateful [censored] women without anybody though. No one else is stupid enough to marry her. I was married to her for 11 years, and she watched soaps while I laid my life on the line/busted my balls to pay the bills-was nothing but a paycheck to her.
Why am I ranting though? You and Shoe both know this is all true bub. You all know there's 3 sides to every story, but I kept quiet while she slandered the hell out of me, lied to me..etc-still does. Was I blameless? Absolutely not, and I have to make amends for it/answer to God (things that I am doing), but she needs to take a look in the mirror and realize that she made my life a living hell, and I'd have rolled out years ago, but tried to endure for my sons. I just got to the point that I knew that was doing my sons zero good living in that war zone.