aaawwww.....

I've had a hard time with coworkers cause I think they were shifting into mobbing behaviours after the rumour - about me (theoretically still a senior analyst) jumping the "consultant" step and becoming a partner - spread.

I've reacted in my typical "head down like a bowling ball" manner and I've been very harsh with a coworker named Andrea (it's a man's name in Italy).

He's kind of sensitive in a weird girlish way - which I hate even in girls, I'm quite different from my normal self when it comes to work, you're supposed to be a samurai no matter how hard what you're working on is - and I think I hurt him.

Ten minutes ago we were laughing stress away and he asked me like a puppy:

"Ma...mi vuoi bene?"

which means "But...do you love me?"

How cute is that? [img]graemlins/cat.gif[/img]

Maybe too cute?

Uh? Explain yourself, please... [img]graemlins/dog.gif[/img]

People are exactly like sheep, they "Baaa" and follow one another mindlessly. Then they all rub against a fencepost until they get "scrappy" and die...
Well, not exactly exactly like sheep.
Anyhow, gossip is terrible and all-pervasive in office settings. Baaa!

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Uh? Explain yourself, please... [img]graemlins/dog.gif[/img]

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<font size="2" face="Comic sans ms, Helvetica, sans-serif">You know, Hostboard was down for so long that I can't remember what I meant. Hmmm.

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Originally posted by 5Cats:
Anyhow, gossip is terrible and all-pervasive in office settings. Baaa!

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<font size="2" face="Comic sans ms, Helvetica, sans-serif">Which is why I do all my bitching here!

<font color="#a62a2a" size="1">[ December 04, 2006 03:35 AM: Message edited by: Ersby ]</font>

What I know is I'm becoming very intolerant.

Because two coworkers are still here cause I asked Boss to give them another chance (of course they don't know anything about this, I'm not the kind of person who likes her good deeds to be public) and when I saw them mobbing me I kind of lost it.

Then when Boss decided the percentage of my partnership, I asked him to count a 1% less so I could be at a lower step than a coworker who's been working with him for five years (I think Boss wanted me to have a higher percentage than hers). When I realized she considered herself more "important" than me I understood mine was a wise decision (she would have hated me if we had the same share percentage) but I popped a vein thinking how respectful I am of others (giving up a 1% of a share that might mean giving up 10.000 euros per year) when others just don't have the same consideration.

This is why I am so intolerant lately.

And this is why I start to understand people who get neurotically aggressive when they become managers.

My first reaction to being mobbed was: "Ok, now I go to Boss and she and he get fired!".

Then my moral issues ensued and I txted Chaos to complain and self deprecate.

Something similar is happening to a friend of mine who's been promoted recently. At first he thought the job was great, but now he's gone up to management he has to deal with people who don't really have the ability that their position requires. Now he goes to meetings where nothing ever gets decided and has to deal with departments who never do what they say they're going to do.

He's become an bad-tempered old man in the space of a few months.

Yes self depreciate she did. I am a pleb, I have recently been officially made a supervising pleb, but I'm still plebby.

Oh and hi everyone yes I finally got a new computer. [img]smile.gif[/img]

That kind of sucks. Giving up a % to be nice to some ungrateful partner that didn't even realize you'd done it? At least you can rest assured that you're a better person, and not concerned with % to make you feel "important". Money isn't everything. But you already knew that.

It's back in normal mode here at work now.

Not that I hang with them much - but it's part of my personal phylosophy, I don't think friendship and sentimental relationships at work are a good thing - but at least they stopped mobbing me which is what I needed, considering all the stress I'm going thru.

I need some days off.

Weird thing about the word "mobbing" - it's one of those English words adopted by the Italians that doesn't mean the same in English any more. What Italians call "mobbing", we would call "bullying". If you're mobbed in English, it means you've been attacked by a crowd.

Partly true: I've read the word applied to "bullying in working environments" also in international newspapers.

It's true that Italians use the wrong English words: they say "outing" instead of "coming out" and "footing" instead of "jogging", for example.