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**heidi!** · April 4th, 2003, 02:20 PM

Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors...As you sit there watching....People sit and watch You...Thinking the same thing.

And I agree Wolf abuse happens on both sides...No doubt about it.

**Genie!** · April 4th, 2003, 02:54 PM

Yeah I agree with ya Heidi, only difference IS- I was sitting at the table with my girls listening to the music, sitting there having a cigarette or two and a drink or two. I wasn't actualy up next to some guy talking to him trying to take him home. I wasn't all up in his face being affectionate with him. And any time a guy approached me I told him I was with my friends and had no intenitons of going home with him or anything of the sort. So even if someone was watching me...they'd see pretty quick that the guy would get shoot down and sent away.

**Snow Kitten** · April 4th, 2003, 03:21 PM

I also agree that BOTH men and women do it.. Cheat and Abuse.. For every cheating man or women there is someone cheating with them.. I have been on both side of the fence on this subject, and believe me it's not something you plan... And it's not something you always feel good about doing.. I was in a Abusive marriage and I looked for love and understanding else where and found it.. maybe I should have left first, but it didn't happen.. My lover then single got married, after I was divorced, HE CAME TO ME, and helped me through alot and one thing lead to another and we was with each other again.. He seems to have came and went in my life over the past 11 years, sometimes I feel like he was the one I should have been with all along.. But sometime faith has a cruel way of playing games with peoples lives.. I'm not proud of the things that have happen and I hope to find a love one day that is one on one.. People just need to wake up and realize that NO ONE PLANS THIS SHIT..

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**Tee Ehn** · April 4th, 2003, 03:30 PM

damn.

does anyone care that my bra hurts? *LOL*

snow is the funeral topic that you posted a part 2 of this topic? LOL

k, i have a hot reply but i gotta think about it first.

**Snow Kitten** · April 5th, 2003, 04:06 AM

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BTW Heidi, it does exists in my head, come on over and join us sometimes..LOL..

T, your bra in it's self is a HOT TOPIC!..LOL

As for the Funeral, it just all depends on who reads this board..LOL.

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**The Reverend Dark Angel** · April 8th, 2003, 05:02 AM

Which sex defines what cheating is? Which partner in the relationship pushes the envelope to find out? A woman having cyber sex on the internet with a man she's never met and never will meet... is it harmless fun or is cheating because she's arroused? A man going to a stripclub and getting lap dance after lap dance from the same girl and having a constant hardon the whole night through... is it a waste of money or is cheating because that little stain on his pants is cum? You kiss someone else, fuck it, you're cheating. You sleep with someone else and I find out, fuck it, you're history. But then, I'm not married nor have I ever been in a truly committed relationship. So what the fuck do I know?

**Mystyx** · April 9th, 2003, 09:26 PM

Cheating is cheating....no matter how you get there...its cheating.... what you put into life will come back your way...its as simple as that.

There is no room for abuse either under any circumstance or to anyone....

We all learn the hardest lessons of life, when it happens to us.... Now what? <--- This is what makes the difference.

**Virgo** · April 9th, 2003, 10:49 PM

I think that everyone has a different definition of cheating...to the few that know me pretty good, they know that I have a pretty open marriage. I've been with my husband since I was 15, and I will be 27 this year. To us..sex is just physical gratification, and I'm kinky so..dofferent things arouse me. He can be with other women if he wants, as long as I know or get to participate and vice versa, and to us this is normal...cheating to us would be sharing our innermost desires with the person on a daily basis instead of sharing them with him. I love my husband to death, we have a child togeather but i think our relationship is much better becasue we are honest about everything.maybe we are just weird...and cyber..well..i could really care less about what he does on here, I call people that I talk to on here,,as has he..we don't care as long as the phone bill doesn't get to high *L...as I said.maybe I'm just weird...